Regular readers will know I spent time in an Orphanage and was then adopted. I’ve met my birth mother but due to Brexit I am contemplating if I should meet my Dad.
Growing up I had no real desire to find my birth Mother and meet her.
The explanation from Social Workers as to the circumstances leading to my Sister and I being placed in an Orphanage lay the blame firmly at her door.
For this reason I always said I’d prefer to meet Dad given the choice.
As with most of my life, finding Mammy was something I had nothing to do with.
Having met her I am none the wiser as to the full circumstances surrounding the events leading to me being in care.
She has passed away now. So even if she wanted to tell me the truth that ship has long sailed.
I’ve spoken briefly to Aunts on my Father’s side.
Neither of whom has anything positive to say about my Mother. Quite the opposite!
With the amount of time that has passed any real or perceived transgressions have been multiplied and bitterness has festered.
My Sister spoke briefly to Dad once.
He was tearful and has a thick Irish accent so she was unable to understand much of what he said.
A large part of his family still live in Co. Mayo. He hasn’t visited for a good number of years and it appears is unlikely to do so again.
As a child we were told that Mammy had left us with Daddy and returned to Ireland with our Older brother.
He was unable to work and care for us so made the decision to put us up for Adoption.
Being a parent myself now there is nothing I wouldn’t do to stay in my children’s lives.
I’ve often said I would like to meet my Dad.
As time has gone on I’ve come to realise the only reason is to ask questions.
What actually happened?
Why did you put us up for adoption?
Why didn’t your sisters who are so bitter to my Mother step up and help?
But that is the sole reason. I’ve no desire for regular contact.
My adopted parents are wonderful Grandparents. Birthdays, Christmas, even Halloween and St. Patrick’s day don’t pass without a card for their grandchildren.
I’m well used to answering Dr’s questions about family medical history with “I’m adopted”
I’m sure everyone is well aware of the shambles that is Brexit.
With Mrs OMG and all the children being Irish citizens I am the only one with a UK passport.
Not an issue in a pre Brexit world. Post Brexit we are still unsure as to the exact issues that may arise.
Freedom of travel will certainly go at some point.
We’ve been told that ex-pats won’t be affected and can continue to remain in whatever country they have settled.
It does mean we are pretty much left with two choices in the future. Stay where we are or move back to the UK.
Dreams of retiring to a sunny Greek island evaporated when my stepson was diagnosed with Autisim and I became his carer.
So I was pretty certain I’d be staying in Ireland for good. Always nice to have the option though.
Having lived in Ireland for 13 years now I qualify for Citizenship. The cost is slightly prohibitive.
€175 application fee and €950 certification fee.
I am eligible for an Irish passport through my parents.
There is one small issue. Mammy used a Fictional surname on my birth certificate.
This means I need my Dads birth cert.
Not knowing enough of his details I cannot go and apply.
I also wouldn’t feel right asking one of my cousins I’ve chatted to on Facebook but never met.
Is it right to meet just so I can get an Irish passport?